They say people who take pride in being "brutally honest" are more interested in being brutal than honest. I can see why.
I can name a few slips of the tongue during a heated argument that have comfortably put me in the position of the attacker. I can name a few people who have started an "honest" debate just to provoke.
But that's not always the case.
In my experience, I've only been able to be harshly truthful with a handful of people. Usually my closest friends and family members. Or in work situations that I feel demand me to be. And understandably so. You've got to have some guts to lay it all out there, and feel somewhat safe enough that this won't ruin everything you've got going.
My brutal honesty either appears in the form of word vomit during an altercation (with my brother or dad lol) or in the form of my trying to really be honest about how I feel or about a particular situation - with only the best intentions.
Last year, I was brutally honest with a close friend and it ended up breaking our relationship into tiny little pieces. But again, the intention was never to be brutal. In that case, I was, however, taking a big gamble on how strong our friendship really was. Or how weak.
Sometimes brutal honesty (with good intention) is necessary. You just have to pick and choose the people who you feel can really handle it, or the people you aren't afraid of losing. Just know you might end up wrong every now and then.
The #100daychallenge writing series is my way of holding my right brain accountable for all the brain fog in hopes that I'll learn to creatively organize my thoughts and learn something(s) new about myself in the process. The challenge includes prompts from the San Francisco Writers' Grotto's 642 Things to Write About. You can also follow my #100daychallenge here.